Medicare Issues

So today I spent and ungodly amount of money on my parents medicines. It is unbelievable that they can live and work their whole life here and spend that much on medicines. Tell me where the medicare went? Why when I signed my father up for a supplemental insure that it didnt come with a perscription plan? Then I call and find out when I signed him up it wasnt the time for perscription sign up. He cant have a perscription plan until november and december of this year.

How can seniors survive on the pittence that the government gives them? I mean really, they would not make it on their social security if I wasnt here. And my parents worked their whole lives. What is our government doing with the social security they paid in? I need to research this stuff a little more. I have also found out there are no resources out there for seniors. Mom and Dad cant get food stamps because they get 50 dollars too much. What the heck is that? No wonder our seniors are eating canned pet food!

Now I know I'm not the only one out there that is mad about this.

Dad

Ok so now that Ive been doing this a few days I should give you a background on who I am referring to in these posts. Dad... alcoholic... when I moved out here to help mom he was forgetting a lot already. Still driving and drinking a case (24) of beer a day. for the first two years i slowly startd going to the store for them cause i noticed dad was drinking in the morning. And mom began to rely on me a lot more, but at that time mom was fine, just old. Eventually My family packed up and moved in. took me about a year to wean dad off the beer. I started by buying 12 packs then gradually just bring out 6.. then 5, 4, 3, 2 and so forth... then every couple days one would show up in the fridge.. lol .. this is how I got my father off alcohol without him going into DT's. Now dad had never been to a doctor. And shortly after I moved in I signed him up for the Veterans Association and got him in for a check up... wow that was hard.. he was practically kicking and screaming. diagnosed with hardening of the liver, emphazema, and alcohol induced dementia. Dad slipped fast. He is still with us but is at end of life, end stage liver failure. Rarely does dad or the essence of the dad I knew, come out. Last night several times Dad saw his brother, mind you his brother died 2 years ago. They are going for a ride he told me. I also caught him talking to someone, I heard him yell at one point and he said who is that. who is who. that man. Your tired dad.. lets put you to bed.

Just me blabbering =)

Morning everyone!!! Woke up in a wonderful mood =) Dad slept through the night, that doesnt happen very often. Today is homework day for me. A new class started Im excited about it.

My new adventure today is keeping up with the SB1040 law. I cant believe how it has blown up out of proportion. This law IS NOT a race issue. It is about US Citizens and thier rights. I would like to reiterate that this is NOT a race issue... this is about US Citizens wether you have lived here all your life or just became a citizen yesterday ... it is about us .. US Citizens losing thier rights to illigal immigrants. And when I say Illegal Imigrants I am not targeting Mexican Illegal Imigrants.. There are Illegal Imigrants from every country. And the US is not the only country to have this problem. Its just that Arizona has Decided to speak up first.

So with that said... I relish your comments on that subject. =)

Sooo...

sooo.. been a long and grueling day. Mom was nice to Dad for the most part... guess what I said last night might have helped. called him a name once and walked out of the room and was shocked. Dad is very confused tonight. Mom was helping him in the bathroom and well she gets rough.. I know this cause as a kid I can remember her being rough with me. and I saw the way she pulls the briefs on him. Anyway heard yelling ran in there and Yup.. dad clocked her.. I told her you cant think he doesnt know how mean you are to him... I have seen it before ... people who work in a nursing home being rough with the elderly and they lash out or dont like them cause they know.. not the way we know, but they know. Anyway after dad settled I gave him a sandwich and had him eat it.. then walked him to the restroom again and changed him and got him ready for bed... no fighting with me.. no grumbling... just let me help him... like I do.. nice and loving. I told mom later .. that I think dad is paying for his indiscretions and its time to stop abusing him (mentally of course).. but either way its not right. Not at all. Dad is in bed and mom is playing on her computer... Maybe I should let her read my blog.. Do you think that would help? Im going to tape her if she is mean to him again. Night for now.

Yes its Morning.. where is my coffee

Morning everyone.. so last night didnt go well. Dad was very confused and mom well she was just as mean as ever. she got her nightgown on and left him wandering around the house in his brief. So I guided him to the room and said it was time for bed. he asked if I was going to make him breakfast in the morning.. First audable question from him I have understood in a while. wasnt jumbled like they normally are. I said yes why are you hungry? he said kinda. So I made him a sandwich. And found out mom had eaten earlier and didnt give him anything. I have mentioned to her numerous time that if she is hungry chances are Dad is. So he ate his sandwich and i put him in bed and left. I hear yelling and I go in there and she is yelling at him to get in bed and called him stupid and numerous other bad names I probably shouldnt post. I dont know how to handle this. Its getting hard and hurts so much. She is so mean. Not just to Dad but everyone here. Now let me explain that her alzhiemers is at the beginning stage. She is not wandering around aimlessly like dad. She knows what she is doing. Is she afraid of when she will be like that? I have read a book.. Im gonna plug it .. its a good book. Its called The 36 Hour Day.. here is a link to where you can get it.

http://books.google.com/books?id=tfxjRJvrphkC&dq=the+36+hour+day&printsec=frontcover&source=bn&hl=en&ei=eyLXS_SzLJLiswOx-4CuAg&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=6&ved=0CC4Q6AEwBQ#v=onepage&q&f=false

I have read this book and it gave me a lot of insite on how they are feeling and how to care for them as well as yourself. What do you suppose God is teaching me? Compassion.. I have that or I couldnt do this. Tollerence? Understanding? Time to get Dad up.. Thanks for listening. =)

The End of the day is almost near....

Ok so dad had a shower today... his meds are making it hard for us to get him to the restroom.. I know probably not what you wanted to hear... but you know what bugs me? I am really tired of butting heads with mom.. yes she has alzhiemers.. but not that bad.. little forgetful .. and I usually just repeat myself.. .but what we are butting heads about is how she treats dad.. Its awful she yells at him and calls him names and my gawd it pisses me off. She will hurry and eat and leave him at the table by himself.. I can guarantee that if the roles were reveresed dad would not be doing that to her... For crying out loud mom he cant even dress himself!!! Yes stuff like wow this really upset me... she has oxygen so she drags a hose around anyway she dropped a reciept on the floor in front of her... she tells dad pick that up... so he starts reaching for this and reaching for that and moving the kitchen chair and moving her hose and she is telling him no the reciept the paper pick it up then she gets upset ... and i hear this so i go in there and pick it up and walk away... pick the thing up yourself mom geez.. no I didnt say that but i was thinking it... does she really hate him that much? I know they had problems lots of problems but really he doesnt event know any of that anymore.. he doesnt know his kids and barely knows her... I could go on... but instead Im gonna get a cup of coffee ... and say good night to you all... Ill let you know in the morning how the night went.. lol before long you all will know me as well as I know myself... and yes I ramble on and no I am not using punctuations properly if any at all. lol because this is me... letting it all out and letting my fingers catch up with my mind.. I will however use spell check.. lol night everyone =)

The Day is half over... grrr

Ok so I woke this morning... more refreshed than I had been.. grabed a cup of coffee... note: Danielle is addicted to coffee. I was up maybe 15 mins before my day started.. Mom woke up.. lol... I usually like to have a couple hours before anyone gets up.. lets me drink my coffee and read emails... check myspace.. read my rss feeds. You know the typical morning stuff. So I fixed her coffee, let her rotties out, chatted a few... then went back to my feeds. Then its time to get dad his meds and walk him to the restroom. Dad is very very ill. But we deal. Now I suppose I should check into my class and begin my assignments... While still in the back of my mind hoping i passed the class that ended yesterday.. lol... started out strong in that class but by the third week mom was in hospital and so that put me behind a week.. and 3 days during my catch up and cramming because the class is ending I had to call the ambulance for dad... yes this is a typical few weeks for me... Dad still isnt up.. at least his brief was changed.. I better go in there and roll him out of bed and dress him and get him moving around or his sundowners will keep him up all night... ill check back later.. you know this blog is going to be very useful to me... I dont have anyone to vent on so just typing all this is already helping. Thank you =)

My History...

I have heard about blogging as many have. Not really reading any. But I needed a place where noone knew me and I could vent my frustartions at unknowing participants. LOL So here I am... and I hope you all welcome me with open arms.

First my history... I will be leaving some stuff out to protect the innocent or the not so innocent... LOL ... I am a recovering drug addict... Meth was my drug of choice... in the 80's it was so accessable... during that time I had a little girl and I thank my life for her... She is the reason I got clean and moved on to "try" to lead a productive life.

To make a long story short ... I got clean and ended up finally meeting a wonderful man and got married. Currently I am going to college online and taking care of my two elderly unwell parents.

So this is where we will start. I just need a place where I can go... =)